I love you… you are my freind.
Today i was in my creative writing class and my freind was telling me that she broke up with her boyfreind the night before. When i asked her why, she said because she found out that he said “I love you” to another girl over the phone. when she asked him about it, he said that he loves this girl “as a freind” and he loves her “as a girlfreind.”
This is bs. Everyone else that we were sitting with said it’s ok to tell someone else that you love them because you can love someone as a freind and you can love someone as a pertner. Bullshit! sorry but it called for it.
I just hate it when people say “I love him/her/you like a freind.” I mean, loving isn’t something you can do to someone “as a freind.” That’s like if i said “I drove my car to school like it was a bicycle,” or “i played my piano like it was a clarinet:” you can only drive a car like it’s a car, you can only play a piano like it’s a piano, and if you love someone, they are more than a freind to you.
that’s what loving is i’m pretty sure. it means you have feelings for someone that go beyond freindship. basically what i’m saying is, unless you say it to your husband/wife/GF/BF or a family member, you are probably being an ILoveYouSlut.
Because when that boy tells her that he loves her, how does she know if he’s saying it as a freind or if he really means it? there is no way to tell just by hearing the words. It would be more appropriate if he had said to that other girl, “I like you as a freind,” or, “I usually enjoy talking to you.” It would have been most appropriate to say nothing, because if it’s not your lover or your mother, you shouldn’t say it at all (to people. who cares if you say i love my car or i love this burger. i’m talkin about people.).
I think she was right to break up with him for that. ok maybe she could have just told him not to do that anymore, but she probably wanted to break up with him anyways.
